Mommy Madness!: Arguments & Anniversaries.

I know I haven't been posting as much as I should. I really don't have much to say. I'm dealing with two toddlers who fight almost constantly with each other, my lovely Fiance' who is in college full time, and working full time and is basically FRAZZLED at all times, and his father who hates doctors but has issues that need taken care of. I love my family, but I need time off. So I'm getting it.

Monday marks four wonderful, stressful, beautiful years for Wayne and I. While I know that's not much for some people, it's a huge deal for me... for us. Neither of us have ever been in relationships more than a few months. Yes, I did the whole on and off thing with a guy who spent more time cheating on me than he did calling me. I put up with that shit for way too long... But Wayne and I have never done the on/off love/hate relationship. It went from friends to like to love in a matter of six months and it's been great since. Yes, we argue... a lot, but we're happy. With that, I'll get to my point.

Wayne's been in college for one year. He graduates in March with his Associate's of applied science degree in Network Securities and has maintained all A's & B's since his first semester. But between four classes, forty-hour work weeks, two kids and bills up to our necks, the stress is pretty high. I found that we're arguing about the dumbest stuff, seriously. He folded the towels wrong (I'm a perfectionist) so I got mad. He couldn't find his underwear because I didn't have time to put the clothes away, so he got mad. I burned the pork chops the other night while fighting with both kids and the dog, and I started bawling. He laughed at me (which on a normal day I would have, too) so I got mad... On and on and on... So last weekend I decided I'm not fighting anymore. I refuse to spend any more time upset than I already have because frankly, Life is just too damn short. So here's how I "rejuvenated" our relationship (so to speak).

Friday:
-What a night. He worked late, dinner was cold, I was sad. What did I do? Baked cookies. I made his favorite cookies, put on one of the Resident Evil movies, and we lounged all night wrapped in each other's arms. Beautiful. Well, with the occasional "Mommy she took my toy!" from either of the kids.

Saturday:
- Grocery day. We spent the whole morning picking out recipes to make throughout the week. That night, we decided we wanted?Chinese food, so we got the stuff and were going to make shrimp stir-fry and then deep fry some for his dad who wont touch Chinese food.??We cooked together. Not me cooking and him watching or the other way around. We did everything together and we moved with the perfect?synchronism of two people who have known each other for a lifetime.?It was beautiful and I think he smiled more in that hour than he has in weeks...
- Football. Now I should inform you, I've never watched football. My dad doesn't watch it, the guys I used to date didn't watch it, so I knew nothing about football. Well, I decided to ask him to teach me about football. The players, the downs all of it. And we sat on the couch that night watching Nebraska vs. Ucla and I actually knew what was going on. We had a lot of fun and I can't wait to do it again this weekend.

Sunday:
-More football. 'nuff said.

I realized that doing things together was where we were lacking. I'm usually cooking or cleaning when he gets home from work or school and when I'm done with that its bath and bed time for the kids, laundry, shower, and by that time it's almost 11. No time for spending time when he's already asleep... So I've made an effort. The cleaning now waits til he's at work or school and I don't worry about it when he gets home. Its the same amount of work, just spread throughout several hours rather than two because I'm in a hurry.

We're celebrating our anniversary tomorrow because Monday is just too hectic to try to squeeze dinner into the mix too. So we decided to go to a movie and get lunch, then find something fun to do, no matter what it is... I'm really looking forward to it. And you know what? Since making an effort to spend more time together, we haven't had a single argument. I'm no longer stressed out about the kids or the house and he's not being nagged at. Win/Win. :)

Recap:
Cook Together
Let Him Teach You Something
Spend Time Together.

The rest will fall into place. :)

xo

Source: http://mommymadness711.blogspot.com/2012/09/arguments-anniversaries.html

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